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So life is going swimmingly for me and I know most of you don't personally know me....
I graduated from a good University and so did my wife, we have good jobs and make good money, have two cars that are fully paid for, two wonderful little dogs and will be building a house soon.  Our plans are finalized on the house and we are ready to build.  All is going well, until I get the news that my father just had a stroke last week.  He didn't look to bad from my point of view because he wasn't very numb on his left side and he was able to grip with his hand and push with his feet.  The doctor tells me he is extremely anemic... ok... he survived the stroke but that statement about him being anemic scared me because I am too smart for my own good and pray for it to be just a little internal bleeding, but I know it could be cancer.  Tumor is taking up 1/3rd of his stomach and it is cancer.  My father has cancer.  He can't grasp the severity of the situation because his english isn't the best and these medical terms are flying over his and my mothers head.  Yes, I am scared and concerned and all my father says to me is do good in life and my dream is for you guys to finish that house. For every good thing that happens there is always a bad thing that happens... why?
 

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I'm definitely sorry to hear about your news man :(.  My mother is a cancer survivor... so I know where you're at right now.  I wish you and your family the best... do keep us posted.
 

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The worst part is I am trying to explain it to them without getting them worried as I know my dad needs to keep his spirits up to fight this, so the last thing he needs to know is that his kids are worried.
 

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Well, I can relate as well. My wife lost her mother to cancer two years ago.

However, you shouldn't be looking at things as a "balance", because life is anything but balanced. I don't mean to downplay the severity of your situation - after all, I do know what you're going through. But, accepting the bad WITH the good is an ideal situation. The bad times are inevitable. The good times are not. So while there usually is "a bad" to go with every "good", there isn't necessarily a good to go with with every bad.

While I certainly wish you, your dad and the rest of your family all the best, I'm sure you've already begun preparing yourself for the worst case scenario. Take solace in the fact that your Dad got to see you succeed the way he's always wanted. Of all the gifts you could give him, that's the greatest of them all - to not have wasted the opportunities that he helped make possible for you.

Again, best wishes.
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Im sorry to hear about your dad. My mom is struggling with cancer right now. She has been a year without any tumors but I am taking her in tomorrow to get checked out again. So I'll see tomorrow how she is going. I wish the best for you as I know it is not easy dealing with this kind of situation.
 

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Thank you everybody for the support and kind words and I hope the best for all of you and your family members who are also being touched by cancer. I will still be on here reading alot as I need a distraction from thinking about cancer all day.
 

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Update:

My dad went in for surgery yesterday and they removed 2/3rd of his stomach and the surrounding lymph nodes to test for additional cancer cells. He is in good spirits (as good as someone who just 30 minutes ago had his stomach cut open). I just got home at about 1am from the hospital and I am dog tired. The doctor sounded confident that he got most of the cancerous cells in his stomach and that my dad will quickly recover. Hopefully that is the case and that it hasn't spread, but again we can only wait for the test results and for what is to come next i.e. chemo, radiation etc...
 

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I just noticed your post in the NJ meet thread, then found this one. How's your dad doing after the surgery? With all that going on, I'm sure it's tough to get out much but we'd love to see you at the meet this week!
 

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I just noticed your post in the NJ meet thread, then found this one. How's your dad doing after the surgery? With all that going on, I'm sure it's tough to get out much but we'd love to see you at the meet this week!
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We just received the results today and the cancer spread to his lymph nodes, but they don't think it spread beyond that. He will start receiving chemo this week and he is still a little weak on his left side from the stroke but overall he is in high spirits.
 

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That is some relieving news. I am sorry you have to go through such a thing, best wishes for your fathers health and try not to stress yourself more than you have too over something people are virtually powerless against.
 
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